Comments on: Poly Deathmatch http://eternalapprentice.blogsome.com/2009/02/11/poly-deathmatch/ Sex, Love, and Polyamory with Ellie On My Arm Fri, 01 Jan 2010 01:30:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: Gabe http://eternalapprentice.blogsome.com/2009/02/11/poly-deathmatch/#comment-83 Sat, 14 Feb 2009 20:07:06 +0000 http://eternalapprentice.blogsome.com/2009/02/11/poly-deathmatch/#comment-83 I sat on this for a few days longer than I intended before commenting. Sorry about that, since I know you were looking for responses. Honestly, I would have similar feelings about polyfidelity and monogamy. They feel too similar to me. Part of the reason that open relationships work so well for me is that when I meet someone (or when my relationship with someone changes) I don't have to try and put that relationship in a specific box. I'm not limited to only certain ways of interacting with them. It can develop in such a way that works for us specifically. Polyfidelity would return me to being constantly aware of the limitations in what I can be to others and what in what ways we can appropriately interact. That's not a feeling I like at all. I hope y'all can resolve this in a way that makes everyone happy. I sat on this for a few days longer than I intended before commenting. Sorry about that, since I know you were looking for responses.

Honestly, I would have similar feelings about polyfidelity and monogamy. They feel too similar to me. Part of the reason that open relationships work so well for me is that when I meet someone (or when my relationship with someone changes) I don’t have to try and put that relationship in a specific box. I’m not limited to only certain ways of interacting with them. It can develop in such a way that works for us specifically. Polyfidelity would return me to being constantly aware of the limitations in what I can be to others and what in what ways we can appropriately interact. That’s not a feeling I like at all.

I hope y’all can resolve this in a way that makes everyone happy.

]]> by: Marla Singer http://eternalapprentice.blogsome.com/2009/02/11/poly-deathmatch/#comment-82 Thu, 12 Feb 2009 00:22:06 +0000 http://eternalapprentice.blogsome.com/2009/02/11/poly-deathmatch/#comment-82 Hmm...well I never felt like I was a fast-food joint with you. Nor do I think that's how you saw/see our weird friendship. "What's in it for the people I'm with?" - a great friendship, someone to talk to, someone to discuss kink with, over a "safely alternative" lunch, with a touch of sex/fondling. Please please keep this work/thought in progress updated, you know that I'd love to see how it turns out :P Hmm…well I never felt like I was a fast-food joint with you. Nor do I think that’s how you saw/see our weird friendship. “What’s in it for the people I’m with?” - a great friendship, someone to talk to, someone to discuss kink with, over a “safely alternative” lunch, with a touch of sex/fondling.

Please please keep this work/thought in progress updated, you know that I’d love to see how it turns out :P

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